(I play on crippling with a large galaxy size, so things may be different on a huge map)
1. Make sure to upgrade your intial mining ship into a colony ship.
2. Buy a factory, and put your military slider to 100%, then build colony ships like mad.
3. Eventually switch off to 100% tech (as your money gets lower (around 1500 bc) and rush build a lab.
4. Reasearch along these lines as fast as you can
-Get some tech that increases population growth (but not any real expensive ones. think xeno medicine, but probably not fertility acc)
-Get some economic tech, so you can build at least a low economic building. Put some of your slider in social and slap some of those thing on your homeworld, or any other world with 3.00+ billion.
-Get some basic military tech so that you can get a few basic 1 atk ships to build up your military ranking
-Grab a couple diplomacy techs so the AI doesn't get minus against you from you having low diplomacy.
5. If you have to ease off reasearch into social on your slider, until you are making money. Don't be afraid to get into debt for just a little bit.
6. Once you are making money, do whatever you gotta do. Just remember to try to make every other tech some kind of military tech. I found I was able to keep up much better in the military department once i started thinking like that.
This kind of thing may not work as well on huge, and it may not be how the pros do it. I can win on crippling though, following a start formula kinda like this.