it has been this slow for me since I discovered Wincustomize / Stardock a couple of years ago.
A couple of years???
I understand and sympathize with your problem and the frustration that it can obviously cause. I hate it when I'm having some problem and everyone that doesn't have a similar problem jumps on the thread and says it's no problem for them and it must therefore be something that I'm doing wrong, even though *sometimes* they may even be right.
However, a forum (or other) access problem that has existed for years isn't the problem that most people here have been discussing. I have to assume but knowing a fair number of the people that have responded to this thread I think it's a reasonable assumption that most people are talking about an issue that started suddenly around 9/8/08 and seemed to disappear just as suddenly 9/12/08 (dates approximate).
I'm not saying your problem is not important, just that it's a *different* problem.
I can also understand your frustration if when trying to convey your specific problem in a thread that to all intents and purposes appears to be very closely related to your problem, your replies get moderated because they begin to stray slightly off the specific problem under the discussion.
The only thing that I can suggest is that your problem although similar in that it exhibits slow access to various of stardocks sites is a different problem. Generally when moderating the thread Andrew does mention that if you wish to discuss a *different* problem then simply open up a different thread.
You should take him up on that offer and open up a thread that specifically addresses the problem that you've been having. You should also probably email support directly at firstname.lastname@example.org. Also if your issue is primarily with WinCustomize then the best place to post your problem is probably the WinCustomize Site issues forum https://forums.wincustomize.com/forum/188.
I apologize for the trouble that you've had and hope that you have the patience to try the avenues I've suggested above to get your problem resolved.