I think you're using the wrong tactic.
1) Make sure you are an ally of the Altarians
2) Things are more important than money.
3) When they are at war and they ask you for stuff, anything, no matter how big or small with have same effect. A big one, excl. money and i.p's and trade goods.
4) Get someone to war with them, then give. then attack the attacker.
5) Become their own ethical alighnment.
and my favourite one:
6) she's just not that into you!
Good Luck Anyway